#BLAW Self Care & Reflection
Published on: 10/10/2025
Baby Loss Awareness Week (9th–15th October) can bring a swirl of emotions, sadness, love, longing, and everything in between. It’s a week that shines a light on babies gone too soon, and on the parents who carry their memories every single day.
If you’re reading this, please know: you’re not alone. Your feelings are valid, your love is endless, and your need for care, especially now, is real.
Here are a few gentle ideas for taking care of yourself during this week of remembrance:
Give yourself permission to pause
You don’t owe anyone a certain kind of grief. If lighting a candle at home feels right but attending a service doesn’t , that’s okay. If you need to step away from social media or avoid posts that sting, that’s okay too.
Your way of remembering your baby is enough.
Create a small ritual
Rituals can help you hold space for both love and loss.
You might:
– Write your baby’s name in a journal
– Play a song that reminds you of them
– Light a candle at 7pm on 15th October for the Wave of Light
These moments can anchor you, helping love and grief sit side by side for a while.
Write, draw, or create
When words won’t come easily, creativity can speak for you. Write a letter to your baby, paint something imperfectly, or make a keepsake. It doesn’t have to be beautiful, it just has to be yours.
Each small act of creation honours the bond that never fades.
Connect, or cocoon
Some parents find strength in talking to others who’ve walked this path. Others need quiet space, away from everything. Both are valid forms of care.
If you reach out, it might be to a friend, a support group, or someone from the MAMA Academy community who understands. If you retreat, that’s okay too, cocooning can be a way of healing.
Rest without guilt
Grief is exhausting. It’s okay to rest more than usual, to take naps, skip plans, or let the to-do list wait. You are carrying love and pain at once, and that takes energy. Rest isn’t laziness; it’s how you recover.
Reflect on your journey
You have carried something unimaginably heavy and you’re still here. That’s not weakness; that’s quiet, fierce strength.
Try to notice the ways your baby has changed you, the tenderness, the empathy, the courage. Their story is part of yours, forever woven into your heart.
You are not alone
All around the world this week, candles are being lit, hearts are being held, and names are being whispered. You are part of a community of parents who understand, even if you’ve never met.
MAMA Academy stands with you, remembering your baby and honouring your strength.
Be gentle with yourself this week.
Grief isn’t something to “get over”; it’s something you learn to carry, and you’re doing that with love, grace, and courage.
Your baby’s light still shines through you.
Where to Find Support
You don’t have to face any of this on your own. If you’d like to talk or find comfort in connection, these services and resources are here for you:
A safe, understanding space to talk through your feelings and find support from our compassionate team.
MAMA Academy Maternity Directory
A comprehensive local and national directorycovering mental health services, both NHS and private, along with other handy organisations.